This is a simple tip. Do you think you have a better chance of winning if your opponent is confident or frustrated? You actually have some control over this. It's simple, and it's all about how you react when you miss shots or fall behind. Showing frustration is a good way to give your opponent confidence, and a confident player plays better. Showing confidence is a good way to give your opponent frustration, and a frustrated player plays worse. Remember this at all times. Also note that frustration leads to more poor play and more frustration, spiraling downward. Confidence leads to better play and more confidence, spiraling upward. So, next time you feel frustrated in a match, turn the tables by telling yourself you can do it, and with practice, you'll feel confident at all times, even when you are – temporarily – playing poorly, knowing that you will get over it and will start to play well again. Remember, in any competitive match, the game is more mental than physical! (Plus, never forget that Frustration is just an anagram of Furor Taints!)

"I'm too slow!" That's the cry of many players who play a forehand from the backhand corner, and then can't recover in time to cover their wide forehand. I've written about this before - focusing on the importance of balance and following through back into position so you can cover that wide forehand - but there's another aspect that greatly helps.

When you get a weak ball to the backhand, it's often easier to attack it with the forehand, if you are able to step around. But often a player hesitates in going all the way around that backhand corner, and so only steps around part of the way. The fear is that if they go too far around, they won't have time to get back. But it's actually the opposite. If you don't go all the way, you'll end up leaning to your left (for a righty) to make the shot, and end up off balance and unable to recover quickly enough. On the other hand, if you go way, way around, you may seem way, way out of position - but now you'll be balanced and able to naturally follow through back to the table after you make your shot, and end up much more in position than if you hadn't stepped all the way around. Plus, since you’ll be balanced, your shot will be more consistent and more powerful.

So, if you are going to step around to play a forehand, GO ALL THE WAY!

You should always be learning in table tennis, or in any serious activity. I’m always amazed at how often players miss opportunities to learn from others, or limit their learning by only learning from a few. Here are three types of players you can learn from, both as a player and a coach.

• Students of the Game. Some players are just this – they spend a lifetime learning about all or most aspects of the game. The more you talk with them, the more you’ll learn. Ask questions. Pick their minds. Even if you are an experienced veteran, it’s unlikely you know every aspect of the game better than they do. Ask them about their matches, and you might get a torrent of info that you might learn and improve from.
• Crafty Veterans. They are long-time players who might not really be students of the game, but they know their games very, very well, and know how they win. Why not learn how they win, and adapt some of that for yourself? For example, I knew a veteran player with a big forehand loop and a super-heavy forehand push. Normally he loops with the forehand, but sometimes he will suddenly and tactically change to his super-heavy forehand push, catching opponents off guard – and gets an easier ball to attack on the next shot. Plus, this makes him unpredictable, and opponents often get nervous against him.
• Hedgehogs. What is a hedgehog in this context? It’s a concept often in business to describe one who does perhaps one thing really, Really, REALLY well, and does it over and Over and OVER, thereby building up big profits. Others can’t compete with this single-minded focus. (This is a simplified version of the concept.) In table tennis, this would be the player who is not a student of the game, and not really a crafty veteran, but has learned to do one or two things really well, and just wins over and over on this. Perhaps the player just pushes and blocks. Or just goes backhand-to-backhand with everyone. Their game may be simple, but they probably know that part of the game inside-out – and likely better than you. Why not learn from them, and perhaps adapt what they do well as part of your game? Or, at the least, learn how to play against it, since if one players does something well, others will as well.

At tournaments, players warm their shots up - forehands, backhands, looping, blocking, and so on. Then they go out to play - and half the points start out with their serve, one of the few things in their game that they didn't warm up! This has always puzzled me.

I think most believe that serves don't really need to be warmed up, that they can pull them out at any time without practicing or warming them up first. This might be true if you have truly weak serves, whose only purpose is to get the ball in play. If so, then may I humbly suggest getting some coaching so you can learn to serve well, and then practice your serves until they are a real weapon, as they should be? Then, once your serves are at a threatening level . . . that's when you need to warm them up before matches so you can have them at 100%. Even simple serves are better when you warm them up - you serve them lower, with more spin, and with more depth control. If you warm them up first, you can also serve more deep, aggressive serves without worry about serving off the end. (What, you don't have a deep, aggressive serve that threatens your opponent? Develop them! And note that they should either be fast, breaking serves with spin, or fast and dead.)

When I go to tournaments, I often bring a bag of balls and a ball net for picking them up. When I get the chance, I go to a back table and practice them. Or find a practice partner and take turns serving, where the other player works on receive. Or just catch your partner’s serve and serve back. Then, when it's time to play a match, they are much more effective than they would be without practicing them first.

1. They know that most of the game takes place in the head.
2. They know how to focus.
3. They can’t wait to get to practice.
4. They are students of the game.
5. They love to talk about table tennis.
6. They have spinny serves, but their go-to serve is often a no-spin serve that looks spinny.
7. They attack deep serves, and can take a short serve and effectively push it long, short, or flip.
8. They love to attack the middle (opponent’s transition point).
9. They keep their equipment and bodies in top shape.
10. They play for titles, not rating points.
11. Pickle-what?